Meet Nkili and wish her a happy second anniversary with Tri Delta and Alpha Pi Chapter at the University of Maryland. Originally from South Carolina, Nkili attended Frances Marion University, a small liberal arts college, where she majored in sociology. Nkili hopes to continue her education and pursue a master’s degree in marriage and family counseling.
Why did you become a house director and why Tri Delta?
Nkili’s background in residential living began in South Carolina, where she worked at the Governor’s School for Arts and Humanities with 242 students in a residential high school setting. After interning in D.C. during undergrad and working for a former House Majority Whip, she sought to transition back to housing and residential living. “A friend mentioned the opportunity at UMD, which led me to find my way back to housing and working with young adults. Although unfamiliar with Tri Delta initially, I was drawn to the Fraternity’s values and mission, finding it to be a perfect fit upon meeting everyone.”
How do you find work-life balance?
“Maintaining work-life balance requires intentionality, particularly as I transitioned from a team of residential life coordinators to managing responsibilities solo. It’s important to set boundaries and prioritize downtime. I spend weekends with friends to ensure interaction with adults in my age range and also utilize the allotted leave time per semester to recharge.”
What do you love about being a house director?
“Interacting with the ladies and being appreciated for my contributions are things I love the most about my role as house director. I love being there for them—ensuring their safety and always ready to lend a hand, whether it’s providing craft supplies, addressing emergencies or chatting at mealtimes or in the TV room known as the ‘BCR’ or blue couch room.”
What does a typical day/week look like for you?
“Each day is different but involves daily walkthroughs of the property, addressing maintenance issues and engaging with residents during meal times and study breaks. Balancing administrative tasks, meetings and being visible around the house for whatever arises is key.”
How has being a house director contributed to your growth personally and professionally?
“The ladies’ safety and well-being are my responsibility, and I don’t take that lightly. Navigating unexpected challenges, such as major water incidents, have stretched me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. Being responsible for the safety and well-being of the women has deepened my understanding of teamwork and the importance of clear communication.”
Do you have advice for anyone considering becoming a house director?
“Expect the unexpected, but that’s what makes it such a great experience. It can be a challenge as well as overwhelmingly rewarding. It’s ok not to know something. Ask lots of questions, get to know your house property, reach out to other house directors, swap stories and create a support system.”